I heard her not ten minutes ago on the NPR affiliate, KUOW Seattle. I agreed with her on so many things. Get the book.
However, in discussing a recent survey showing that parents are slightly less happy that those who do not have children, she and host Ross Reynolds left out what is usually left out these conversations, that which is the focus of this here blog:
When people have children, men and women alike are triggered around everything that did and/or did not happen to them as children.
Every parent’s greatest fear is that anything that happened to them as a child will happen to their child. This is the primary reason the first years of new parenthood are so difficult. To new parents: it really does get better.
One’s psychological improvement is not a reason to bring a child into the world. Life will present you with more than enough reasons to navel- or mind-gaze, depending on your world view. But children are one sure way to do it.